I rarely use this to just blog. I’m going to just blog now, so you can all just ignore this if it’s not to your liking.
Warning. Contents under pressure.
But contrary to this opinion, the female residents actually seemed to be working hard to, as Hinze suggests, ‘downplay the incidents and view them as a “normal” part of a bruising training experience’…and to either ignore it (‘I’m in surgery; I can’t sweat the small stuff’) or see the need for change in themselves rather than in those who harassed them… One surgery resident described the experience of discovering in the restrooms an explicit cartoon of herself, bent over, and her mentor engaged in sexual intercourse. Another resident had added an arrow and the comment that he wished he could be in the latter’s position. …[S]he filed no complaint but looked to herself to adapt to the hostile environment…without any expectation that she should not have to deal with this kind of treatment at work.
from Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference
Men perpetuate this idea that women, especially feminists, love to make themselves into victims, but the opposite is true: women over and over cope with being victimized by harassment, assault and even rape by blaming themselves, mitigating what happened to them, and/or sucking it up and keeping it to themselves. The fear of being oversensitive or perceived as oversensitive keeps women in check.
I’ll be quoting a lot from this book on my blog as I read it with the caveat that it’s really white-centric and cis-centric. I wish it included women who are of color and/or trans more than it does and aspects of it are very white feminist (tm), but it includes a lot of important studies about sexism still permeates our society, how sexism impacts women on a subconscious and profound level, and how “different gendered minds” is a groundless myth
Friends, join me in this prayer circle in hopes that Finn Polmar does not become a romantic interest for Alicia Florrick.